The Benefits of Breakup Sex, According to Science
If you want to fix a broken heart, where should you start?
Why do we love breakup sex so much? It’s a question that has entered the minds of millions of couples throughout the world. After all, it’s undoubtedly one of the best ways to end a relationship.
In my opinion, there’s a beautiful freedom in breakup sex as you are no longer bound by the rules of a relationship. Yet for a few moments, you can experience fucking your partner with no further strings attached.
You are lost for words, unable to speak due to the multiple sensations rushing through your body. Every single second of the experience brings you one step closer to orgasm as you relish the moment of being intimate together for one final time.
But despite feeling absolutely incredible, breakup sex also has several psychological benefits.
Let me explain.
Research by sex therapists has shown that breakup sex is a great way to celebrate everything good in a relationship and to find closure before moving onto someone else. Quoting an article in Psychology today:
“It’s like the day before a diet. Tomorrow I’ll start, but today I’m going to enjoy one last order of chicken wings.”
But before we discuss how breakup sex can affect your psychological state, I would like to take a moment to acknowledge you, the reader.
You chose to read this story because you (probably) want to have fantastic breakup sex. You want to be intimate with your partner one final time, or perhaps are merely curious about the psychology of having sex at the end of a relationship.
So are you ready to learn about the psychological benefits of breakup sex?
Breakup sex gives both couples closure.
We’ve all experienced texting our ex late at night, saying how much we miss them. Or perhaps a strong sexual urge to hook up with former partners as a reminder of what we no longer have in our lives.
But breakup sex can help to bring closure to both people by providing a peaceful resolution to a relationship. Psychologically, it confirms that this phase of each other’s lives has ended, and thus it’s time to move on.
You’ll have positive memories of the relationship.
Do you have terrible memories of a previous relationship that is plagued with frequent arguments & fighting?
I thought so. According to a study by The University of Cambridge, positive memories of an experience can create a reduced vulnerability to depression.
After a breakup, it’s normal to feel like you’ll never be happy again because a negative stain of those days is forever marked within your memory.
However, breakup sex can potentially help you to have positive memories of the relationship. As the last thing you’ll remember is having mind-blowing orgasms, the negativity surrounding the breakup will be much easier to handle.
It can relieve stress.
When you’re both fighting during the middle of a breakup, it’s easy to become highly stressed as you’re aware that letting go of your current relationship won’t be easy.
Known as arousal transfer in psychology, it’s possible to shift your emotional state from being angry to extremely horny by having sex during times of conflict. In short, when we become excited by one stimulus, it’s more natural to become excited by another (such as sex).
During intercourse, a chemical called Oxytocin is released — which acts as a natural painkiller. So by having sex after an argument, it’s likely that your level of stress and anxiety will massively decrease.
I’ll leave you with a quote from the Roman emperor, Marcus Aurelius, who beautifully speaks about the importance of having control over your mind when moving on from the past:
“If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”
What are you waiting for? Live immediately.