Is My Penis Big Enough? (And Other Questions Men Think About)

Reflections on the things that matter

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What do men think about?

I’m going to tell you. With over 3.9 billion search results, It’s a question that many women want to understand — but never do.

It’s a thought which captivates the minds of people around the world, yet they never develop a real understanding of the logic behind a man’s thinking.

If you’re reading this blog post, you probably want to understand the mindset of your partner.

You want to understand their emotions, thought process, and questions that go through their head during your relationship.

If that’s the case, then you’re in luck.

You see, I’m a man, which means I have a personal insight into what the male species thinks about daily.

I could quickly go and find 25 questions from the internet and copy/paste them into a blog post. But where would be the fun in that?

Below are some questions which (almost) all men have thought about at some point or another that I compiled from a few friends. Take a moment to think about them and see where your mind takes you.

Are you ready? Let’s begin.

Is My Penis Big Enough?

It’s a common thought that goes through the mind of men around the world. We want to feel like we can bring sexual satisfaction to our partners, and have a sense of dominance over other individuals.

According to National Geographic, the thinking behind this mentality is evolution. For thousands of years, the most masculine and dominant males were the ones who (often) got to spread their genes via sexual intercourse due to women naturally preferring larger penises.

So while the human species evolved, we naturally started to care about the size of our penis to maximize our chance of having children.

Why do we care so much about this size of our penis? Why do we insult people by saying they have no balls? Evolution.

Why Do Women Ask If They Look Okay When There’s Only One Answer?

Ladies, I can guarantee that this has gone through the mind of your partner at some point in time. It may be hard to accept, but it’s true.

You want to be validated. You want to know that you look great, and would like your partner to feel comfortable bringing you anywhere in the world. Being honest, I don’t blame you at all — I’m incredibly empathetic to why many women across the planet do this.

From my perspective, it’s never a great idea to blindly agree with your partner for the sole purpose of making them happy. So I can confidently assume that most women don’t want their lovers lying to them.

Instead of continually boosting the ego, a better suggestion could be to ask why they are asking for validation in the first place. Seneca said it best:

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.”

Do they want the confidence boost? Do they feel insecure? Do they want to know that you want to be seen with them?

Make your lover feel confident, but also provide a subtle touch of honesty to ensure that you are both on the same page when it comes to understanding each other’s opinion.

What’s The First Thing Women Notice About A Man?

You want to feel attractive, loved, and respected. Each day, you want to ensure that you look your best to make yourself seem appealing to your crush, partner, or a random person walking down the street.

I’m no exception: I want to look good. Every time I head outside, I ensure that my hair looks great, my clothes are decent, and I have a confident persona.

There’s a lot of talk in the personal development community about becoming our “best self.” But as cliche as the phrase may be, it’s undeniably true that we all want to feel great.

In my opinion, looking good and having a confident persona are two essential traits to being noticed by your crush. However, I’m empathetic to the fact that other people may have different preferences.

Are these the only questions men think about? No. That would be ridiculous.

Speak to your lover about what is currently on their mind. Answer any questions that they are too afraid to ask, and create a comfortable environment for them to do the same.

Because once we learn to understand & empathize with one another more frequently, we won’t be afraid to ask anything to our partners ever again.

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