How To Tell If A Woman Has Fallen In Love With You

According to several of my closest friends.

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What would you do if you knew that your crush liked you back?

Chances are, you’d muster up the courage to ask them out since you could easily recognize the signs of attraction.

You want to avoid rejection and begin an incredible relationship with someone you genuinely love. But for one reason or another, you don’t know how to differentiate between kindness and genuine love & affection.

That’s okay. I know exactly how you feel. For a long time, I was held back by fear. I was afraid of asking out my crush because I was terrified of ruining the strong friendship that we already had. But once I learned how to recognize signs of attraction, it became much easier to improve my dating life.

During the research phase of this article, I spoke to several of my closest female friends about love. Each of them gave me a technique that you can use to tell if a woman has fallen in love with you.

Here they are:

She’s Emotionally Vulnerable About How She Feels.

According to Julie, emotional vulnerability is a clear sign that a woman has fallen in love with you.

The reason? Vulnerability makes us push past our fear of rejection to speak about how we genuinely feel. In essence, we present our truest selves. Quoting an article published by The Huffington Post:

“Vulnerability often involves exposing ourselves personally in a manner that could potentially lead to feelings of shame, embarrassment, self-criticism, or other uncomfortable emotions.

Risky as it might feel, the rewards of vulnerability are plentiful. Through emotional openness and vulnerability, people can improve their connections in close relationships and develop true intimacy.”

If a woman is emotionally vulnerable with you, it’s highly probable that she feels accepted. She feels safe by your side and trusts you with her emotions on an incredibly intimate level.

It’s important to note that vulnerability may just be a sign of a strong friendship between you both. But if you notice vulnerability being accompanied by several other signs, the chances of attraction are certainly much higher.

She Wants To Spend Every Moment With You.

My friend Sara said this one is pretty obvious. Every single person on this planet has 24 hours in a day. How we spend it is entirely up to us.

So if a woman wants to give up a portion of her day to speak to you or have long conversations until the early hours of the morning, it’s certainly a sign that she’s interested. Quoting an article published by Bustle:

“One of the surest signs someone likes you over text is a rapid response. This shows that the other person is excited to receive your messages and wants to keep the conversation going. It demonstrates that answering you is a priority, even above and beyond other commitments.”

Pay attention to her actions, as well as what she says. Lightning-fast replies throughout the day are a strong sign she’s falling in love with you (if she hasn’t already).

She Remembers The Little Details.

According to Marie, “small details can make a big difference. Sometimes, I’ll replay our conversations in my mind because I genuinely care about what he says. I remember almost everything.”

Research published by Psych2Go shows that: “emotional attraction is a key ingredient in what makes our bonds with those around us so meaningful and intimate. Deeper and more lasting than mere physical attraction, emotional attraction is what happens when we love someone for who they truly are and discover that there is more to them than meets the eye.”

Remembering the small details about someone can be a massive indicator of attraction. So if a woman can remember a story you told her several months ago or little details you mentioned during a conversation, she genuinely cared about what you had to say.

She Talks About Having A Future Together.

If she wants you to be in her life for an extremely long time, it’s a strong sign that she frequently thinks about you and wants to have a future together.

Kim said, “there have been many times where I’ve had a crush on a guy, and I’ll talk about knowing each other for the rest of our lives. We plan vacations, living together, and a few other things. I just want him to know that I’m thinking of him and want him to be in my life for as long as possible.”

Emotionally investing in each other’s future is a strong sign of attraction. As Carolyn Steber writes in Bustle:

“If someone frequently brings up goals associated with long-term relationships early in the relationship, it’s a good sign that [they are] interested in having one. This could be generally mentioning marriage, sharing a house, or even wanting children. Even if you haven’t talked about how these topics apply to your lives, it’s still a good sign.”

So if you want to know if a woman has fallen in love with you, pay attention to the topics she brings up during a conversation.

Final Thoughts.

Like you, I want to improve my dating life. So once I began recognizing the signs of attraction, it became much easier to stop worrying about rejection or anything else that previously held me back from asking someone out.

Whenever you find yourself wondering if a woman has fallen in love with you, take a moment to notice if she’s displaying any of the above signs. If the answer is yes, it might be a strong indicator that she’s attracted to you.

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