How To Survive Traveling With Your Partner

Do you want to avoid arguments while on vacation?

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Last year, I was traveling around the beautiful country of Australia with my girlfriend. But because we didn’t plan the trip very well, arguments became commonplace, and we were left wondering how to proceed with the relationship.

I initially thought that spending so much time together was going to result in a breakup. But while listening to a podcast on a flight to Brisbane, I heard the following quote from Marcus Aurelius, which completely reframed my perspective on the situation:

“Learn to be indifferent to what makes no difference.”

I realized that although I couldn’t control the actions of my partner, I certainly had the power to choose my response. So a better solution is understanding the reasons behind each disagreement to prevent arguments from happening in the future.

Below are several strategies that will help you to enjoy traveling with your partner. Each one of them improved the quality of my relationship, and I hope they do the same for you, too.

There are going to be unexpected events while traveling that could easily cause arguments with your partner. For example, I had a disagreement with my girlfriend when we were deciding whether to climb a mountain or visit the rainforest.

Many couples make the mistake of “winging it” and assume that everything will sort itself out. But unfortunately, that’s rarely the case.

Of course, you’ll want to do some activities spontaneously. However, planning each day will often prevent any arguments about your itinerary.

While planning your trip together, it’s easy to think that you’re going to spend every moment of the day enjoying each other’s company. But in reality, there will be occasions where you want to spend some time alone.

Similarly, it’s important to remember that not every moment will be perfect. For example, you may have to climb over your partner’s seat to visit the bathroom if they’re asleep on a long flight.

I’ve found that having realistic expectations of the trip will help to reduce your stress levels and enjoy the time spent traveling the world alongside your partner.

Whenever you find yourself feeling stressed, stop trying to make the trip perfect, and you’ll soon realize that imperfections will help to make the trip more memorable.

Discovering your partner’s annoying habits is never a pleasant surprise. However, encountering them for the first time while on vacation is likely to cause tension if you’re getting frustrated.

For example, your partner’s loud snoring might keep you awake while staying in a bungalow by the beach in Fiji.

Before you book a trip, take a moment to be honest with each other about your bad habits, and the best way to prevent them from annoying your partner on vacation. For example:

  • If your partner is lazy, consider allowing extra time in your schedule to get ready.
  • If your partner is messy, choose a type of accommodation that has complimentary housekeeping.
  • If your partner snores, remember to bring earplugs so you don’t get disturbed during the night.

Although having minor arguments is inevitable while traveling, ensuring that you’re prepared for their bad habits will undoubtedly help to make the trip go a lot smoother.

Instead of overthinking every detail, I’ve realized that a better strategy is to focus solely on the things I can control while traveling & let everything else fall into place. In the words of the Greek Philosopher, Epictetus:

“There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”

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