How To Overcome Fear

And stop letting negative thoughts control your life.

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What’s holding you back from living the life you deserve?

Often, it’s because there’s a little voice inside your head saying that something is about to go wrong, or you’re incapable of achieving what you desire.

Even in the moments when you feel unstoppable, self-doubt eventually creeps in, and your mind quickly becomes paralyzed with fear.

But it doesn’t have to be this way.

You can stop letting fear control your mind, dictate your decisions, and influence each of your actions.

You can live with permanent confidence, unlimited freedom, and the knowledge of how to overcome any fear preventing you from becoming your best self.

If that’s the life you aspire to live, here’s what you need to do to make it a reality.

Define Your Fear.

As Marcus Aurelius once wrote: “If you are distressed by anything external, the pain is not due to the thing itself, but to your estimate of it; and this you have the power to revoke at any moment.”

Fear can bring out the worst in all of us. It prevents you from succeeding, thriving, and living a happier life.

But unless there is a genuine danger present, it’s merely an emotion inside your head, creating an unsettling state of panic within your mind.

The first step to overcoming fear is defining it. Because unless you know how to recognize it entering your thoughts, it will always have control over them.

Remember that fear comes from uncertainty. So whenever you’re scared, take a moment to define your fear and the best way to overcome it. Your worries will fade away.

Slowly Expose Yourself To It.

I’ve learned that meaningful change only comes when you’re prepared to face your fears and confront whatever is holding you back in life.

For example, I wasn’t able to overcome my fear of Spiders until I began looking at pictures of them online, and slowly built up the courage to remove one from the bathroom.

If you have a fear that you’re currently trying to defeat, consider creating a list of steps that gradually enable you to become more exposed to it. For example, here’s a list that I built while facing my fear of spiders:

  • Look at images of Spiders online, so I become accustomed to seeing them without feeling like I’m in danger.
  • Watch YouTube videos from the safety of my bedroom. Although I’m seeing them move around on a screen, they’re not presenting a threat to me.
  • Go to the Zoo and become comfortable seeing giant tarantulas directly in front of me. As I know they can’t physically hurt me, there will be a lowered level of mental association between spiders and danger.

When you have clarity on how to overcome fear and take gradual steps towards doing so, it becomes much easier to build the courage to defeat whatever’s holding you back.

My life is much better because of my ability to define fear and create the necessary steps to defeat it.

So whenever I find myself feeling afraid, I evaluate the situation and control my thoughts so I can prevent them from controlling me.

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