How To Have Great Anal Sex, According To Science

Use Lube. Lots Of It

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“Books are finite, sexual encounters are finite, but the desire to read and to fuck is infinite; it surpasses our own deaths, our fears, our hopes for peace.” ― Roberto Bolano

Have you ever tried Anal sex?

Yes? No? Maybe? Don’t be shy.

Despite being performed by couples all around the world, it’s the one type of penetration which is still considered Taboo. According to a study by the University Of Washington, the level of intimacy and trust within a relationship heavily influences women’s opinion on anal sex.

Within minutes, you can go from undressing your lover to being mid-penetration, thrusting away as you both (hopefully) derive pleasure from the experience.

Admittedly, anal sex doesn’t always go as intended. But in the words of Oscar Wilde:

“Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes.”

You clicked on this story because you are interested in Anal sex. Perhaps you’re looking for tips in preparation for being intimate with your partner, or maybe you’re curious about the topic. If that’s the case, then keep reading.

This article is for you.

Is Anal Sex Popular?

“Don’t wreck a sublime chocolate experience by feeling guilty. Chocolate isn’t like premarital sex. It will not make you pregnant. And it always feels good.” ― Lora Brody

That’s a good question.

One of the best parts about living in the modern era is the ability to have sex anywhere, anytime. So whether you’re looking to hook up with someone in your local city or on vacation, the possibilities of having regular sex are pretty much endless.

For example, you can open Tinder (or any other dating app) and meet someone who also has a shared interest in anal. How brilliant is that?

Quoting an article written by Michael Castleman M.A. in Psychology Today, “40 percent of Americans have experimented with oral-anal sex (analingus), sphincter massage, fingering, toy insertions, or penis-anus intercourse.”

So ultimately, as the education and age of each person increases, they tend to be more susceptible to higher levels of sexual experimentation.


How To Have Great Anal Sex

“Sex between a man and a woman can be wonderful, provided you can get between the right man and the right woman.” — Woody Allen

If you are simply after ways to increase your health while simultaneously strengthing your relationship, then you’re in the right place.

Here we go.


Nothing could be worse than sticking your penis up somebody’s ass before you’re both ready.

More likely than not, it’ll feel awkward due to a lack of intimacy.

Just like with any other type of sex, foreplay is the key to priming each other for the imminent surge of sexual pleasure and satisfaction.

Undress each other.

Kiss every inch of their body.

Do whatever needs to be done to turn them on, and bring endless fulfillment to the anal sex which is about to take place.

Trust Your Partner

I cannot emphasize this enough. If you do not trust them to “be gentle” and take care of you, the whole anal experience is going to be extremely awkward.

During your first time, you are going to be nervous.

You are going to question why your partner has their dick up your ass.

However, you must go into it with a belief your partner will stop immediately if any of you feels uncomfortable.

Which reminds me…

Use Lube (Lots Of It)

To put it simply, it will be painful if you don’t.

Using a reasonable amount of lube during anal sex is an excellent idea due to it feeling more natural and relatively pleasant (if you enjoy it).

If you are unsure where to purchase Lube, most pharmacies such as CVS & Walgreens tend to stock a variety of options. Just experiment with a few different types and see what works best for you!

Start Slow

Despite what you may have seen on Pornhub, immediately beginning with rapid-thrusting during anal sex is not a good idea.

Unfortunately, I found this out the hard way (pun intended).

From my experience, if you start at a swift pace, it provides no ability to increase the passion, intimacy, and speed of reaching orgasm.

Although some people may differ (which I can respect), it seems better to gradually build up the pace as you deepen the level of sexual satisfaction during anal sex.


Clean Up

Of course, it can get extremely messy if you’re not careful.

Bring wipes. Bring towels. Bring anything that you may need to have a successful cleanup operation once you’re finished.

So what are you waiting for? In the words of Charles Dickens:

“Never do tomorrow what you can do today”.


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