How Meditation Can Improve Your Relationship
Five minutes a day is all it takes to become a better partner.
Do you ever find yourself wishing that your relationship could improve?
I thought so. You have a vision in your mind of the perfect life alongside your partner & a beautiful connection between you that can withstand any argument.
But for one reason or another, things aren’t working out as well as you initially hoped, and you’re going to sleep each evening questioning what the future may hold.
Perhaps everything will be okay. After all, it could be a tiny bump in the road as you move through this journey called life.
Or maybe it’s more serious, and you need to take some time to gain clarity over what you both want from the relationship.
Whatever situation you’re in, one thing is for sure: there’s always room for your relationship to improve. In the words of Jordan Peterson:
“Compare yourself to who you were yesterday, not to who someone else is today.”
I’ve discovered that it’s pointless wishing for the past to be different as you can’t change what’s already happened. But if you continually strive to become a better partner each day, the difference in your relationship will be profound.
So below are a collection of ways that meditation can improve your relationship. Each one of these insights helped me to become a better partner, and I hope they do the same for you, too.
It Helps You To Understand Your Feelings.
When you confront the negative thoughts inside your head, it becomes easier to understand why they exist so you can prevent them from affecting your daily life. As Marcus Aurelius once said: “Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking.”
Understanding a problem in a relationship is the first step to creating a solution. So whenever you get a chance, take a moment to sit in silence for a few minutes and understand why specific thoughts are entering your mind.
For example, you could be feeling anxious as you don’t want to have another argument with your partner upon returning home from work. Or maybe the spark that ignited the fire between you both is slowly fading away, and drastic action is needed to save a relationship that you both cherish.
It’s only in moments of silence that our inner voice can break through the noise of our daily life.
So listen to it, understand what it’s trying to tell you, and you’ll be surprised at how quickly every aspect of your relationship will improve.
You’ll Become A Better Listener.
Knowing how to listen intently to other people is a foundational step to building healthy relationships. In the words of Ralph Nichols:
“The most basic of all human needs is to understand and be understood. The best way to understand people is to listen to them.”
Since I began listening to myself more frequently, I’ve discovered that it’s much easier to have conversations with other people. After all, it’s impossible to understand other people’s emotions if you’re unable to acknowledge your own.
So whether it’s laying in bed, sitting on the bus, or anywhere else, listening to your conscience for a few minutes each day will drastically improve the quality of your relationship.
Although it may seem like a small habit to implement, the results will last an eternity as each conversation in your relationship will be much more meaningful.
You’ll Become Better At Managing Stress.
Every single one of us has to deal with stress in our relationship at one point or another. But it’s how you manage it, and overcome these moments in time that strengthen your character. Perhaps this is what Epictetus meant when he said: “It’s not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters.”
Learning to control your thoughts & emotions is a superpower that very few people possess. After all, it allows you to prevent irrational judgment or fear from destroying a relationship that you both worked extremely hard to build.
So instead of worrying about events outside of my control, meditation has helped me to realize that restraining my frustration is often better than releasing it. Marcus Aurelius said it best:
“Choose not to be harmed, and you won’t feel harmed. Don’t feel harmed, and you haven’t been.”
So every day, ask yourself: “What can I do today to understand my emotions so I can become a better partner?”
That’s all you need to do.