Don’t Chase Money. Chase Fulfillment.
When I first began my self-improvement journey, I thought having a lot of money would bring me a feeling of immense satisfaction. Spoiler alert: it didn’t. Every single day, I was doing a job I hated just so I could add an extra zero to the end of my bank balance. I was miserable.
It took me a while to realize that chasing money wasn’t the solution to all of my problems. I had a desire to wake up with a smile on my face every morning. But deep down, all I really wanted was fulfillment.
So I began making decisions that would help me create a more fulfilling and enjoyable life. And over several months, those choices resulted in my dreams becoming a reality.
My friend, it’s certainly possible to create your ideal life. You can achieve anything you’ve ever wanted. All you need to do is make positive choices that get you one step closer towards the future you desire.
Here’s how to start.
Remove “Happy” From Your Vocabulary.
It’s a pretty broad term. So if you want to create your ideal life, you need to be a lot more specific. After all, fulfillment, by definition, is the act of achieving a particular goal.
When I first heard of this strategy, I didn’t think it would work. I assumed it was just another “mindset hack” that gurus on the internet love to promote to make themselves look spiritual and in touch with their emotions.
I was wrong. A few weeks after removing it from my vocabulary, I was incredibly surprised by the progress I was making towards my goals. The reason? I had a strong vision of a fulfilling life in my mind, and I was willing to put in the work to make it a reality.
If you want to create your ideal life, you need to be incredibly specific about your dreams. Then, do whatever you can to make them come true. Because when you put one foot in front of the other, you’ll inevitably reach your desired destination.
Tell Someone You Love Them.
Let me ask you a question: When was the last time you said, “I love you?”
It’s no secret that strong relationships are an essential pillar of an extremely fulfilling life. Quoting an article published by CNBC:
“Our relationships and how happy we are in our relationships has a powerful influence on our health. Taking care of your body is important, but tending to your relationships is a form of self-care too.”
Whenever you get an opportunity, show appreciation for everyone in your life. Tell someone that you love them. Say you care and will always be there for them if they ever need a shoulder to cry on.
If you can do that every day, the quality of your relationships will massively improve. And chances are, they’ll want to reciprocate and say how much you mean to them, as well.
Replace Expectations With Acceptance.
According to research published by Harvard Medical School: “Gratitude is strongly and consistently associated with greater happiness. Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.”
I’ve learned that worrying about external circumstances is a surefire way to create an extremely unhappy life. Because if you can’t control a situation, overthinking won’t have an effect on the outcome. It’s a waste of time.
Instead, a much better strategy is to practice gratitude and acceptance for everything that happens. Like the Greek philosopher Epictetus once said:
“There is only one way to happiness, and that is to cease worrying about things which are beyond the power of our will.”
Adjust your mindset to replace expectations with acceptance. Try to see the good in everything that happens. For example, if you get stuck in traffic, put on an audiobook and learn something new.
Once you implement this strategy, the effect it’ll have on your life and mindset is genuinely profound.
Spend Some Time In Your Discomfort Zone.
Jack Canfield once said, “The biggest rewards in life are found outside your comfort zone. Live with it. Fear and risk are prerequisites if you want to enjoy a life of success and adventure.”
Unfortunately, an extremely fulfilling life isn’t just going to fall into your lap. You need to get comfortable doing the uncomfortable. You need to be willing to do what most people won’t, so you can eventually live a life that most people can’t.
For example, if you want to fall in love, you need to meet new people and having interesting conversations with them. Sure, it might be awkward at first. But eventually, your comfort zone will expand, and it’ll feel a lot more natural.
Since I started spending more time in my discomfort zone, my confidence has massively increased. I feel like I can achieve pretty much anything I desire. My life is so much better.
For many years, I had a bad habit of prioritizing the wrong things. And as a result, I hated my life. I was always miserable. But once I implemented the above strategies, I quickly found myself living a much better life than I ever thought possible.
Don’t chase money. Instead, chase fulfillment. Make decisions each day that help you make progress towards making your dreams a reality. Live the life that you want to live. Create the future you want to have.