5 Subtle Signs You’re Hotter Than You Think

Here’s how to tell if other people find you attractive.

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For several years, I believed that nobody would find me attractive due to my average looks in comparison to everyone else.

So if you’re anything like me, you let the opinions of others get to your head, infiltrate your mindset, and make you feel unlovable in the eyes of other people.

But when you become surrounded by negativity, I’ve discovered that it’s easy to forget the qualities that would make you an ideal partner during a relationship. In the words of Marcus Aurelius:

So below are several signs that you’re more attractive than you think. Each one of these insights helped me to improve my mindset while dating & focus on the positive characteristics that I currently have. I’m confident they will do the same for you, too.

You Have A Great Sense Of Humor.

Research shows that humor is vital to creating an attraction between two people. So if you can make someone laugh during a conversation, it’s probable that they’ll want to be around you more frequently.

For example, you might have a habit of telling funny stories or jokes whenever you go on a date.

As we’re naturally attracted to people that inspire positive emotions, humor inevitably helps to create strong chemistry with anyone that you meet.

So watch some standup comedy to understand how to write a funny joke, and you’ll discover that a sense of humor will quickly make you attractive in the eyes of other people.

You Don’t Get A Lot Of Compliments.

If you’re not getting told that you look attractive each day, it doesn’t mean you’re ugly. After all, there’s a possibility that people assume you get too many compliments and don’t want to bother you with more.

We all know that confidence is incredibly important when it comes to finding a partner and talking to new people. So instead of waiting for validation from other people, take a moment to consider what actions you can take right now to improve your confidence.

For example, you could wear your favorite outfit, overcome a fear, or anything else that would enable you to boost your self-esteem.

We often associate compliments with being attractive as they make us feel good about ourselves. But all you need to do is find ways to become more confident, and other people will naturally want to be around you.

You Find It Easy To Meet New People.

If you’re great at starting conversations, many people will feel attracted to you as you can connect with anyone on a meaningful level. In the words of Seneca:

“One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and to be understood.”

We all know that people enjoy being around those who take an interest in them.

If you want people to find you attractive, making an effort to listen to the other person during a conversation will have a profound effect on every aspect of your life.

So instead of talking about yourself when meeting someone for the first time, try taking an interest in the other person as they’ll enjoy every moment talking to you.

You Make An Effort To Be Yourself.

One of the easiest ways to stand out while dating is by staying true to yourself. Because when you’re not trying to fit in with everyone else, it’s a lot easier for people to recognize you as someone who’s incredibly unique.

For many people, authenticity is a rare trait that’s considered attractive as it shows you’re honest about your personality, instead of trying to conform to the standards of everyone else. Quoting an article published in Psychology Today:

“Those looking for a suitable partner for raising a family want someone who will be loyal, devoted, and honest — in other words, someone who won’t cheat or be deceitful.”

Although being authentic may seem incredibly easy, I’ve discovered that it has a massive impact on your dating life.

You Smile A Lot.

When you’re optimistic about daily life, other people will naturally be attracted to you. After all, it’s much easier to generate meaningful relationships with optimistic people.

Research shows that smiling makes you more attractive in the eyes of other people. So whenever you get an opportunity, try to smile more frequently during a conversation, and the effects it’ll have on your dating life will be profound.

Because even though you may have doubts about your self-esteem, smiling every day will undoubtedly make others enjoy every moment speaking with you.

Leo Buscaglia said it best: “Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

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