5 Reasons Why People Cheat In Relationships

It’s a bigger reflection of their imperfections, instead of yours.

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Have you ever wondered why people are unfaithful in relationships?

This was a question that kept me awake at night while I tried to understand why my ex-girlfriend committed infidelity. After all, It’s heartbreaking to know that your partner cheated on you.

Right? The relationship which you worked so hard to build ends up crumbling down, and you’re left to wonder why your partner didn’t bother mentioning that they were unhappy. But I’ve discovered that cheating is often a bigger reflection of their imperfections, instead of yours.

So instead of wishing for their personality to be different, try to use this moment as an opportunity to improve yourself and become the person you desire to be. In the words of Marcus Aurelius:

“It’s silly to try and escape other people’s faults. Just try and escape your own.”

So below are a collection of reasons why people cheat in relationships. Each one of them helped me to understand the psychology behind infidelity so I can recognize the signs whenever it occurs. I hope they do the same for you, too.

They’re Not In Love With You Anymore.

Research shows that feelings of detachment & low relationship satisfaction are common reasons for infidelity within a relationship. For example, they might feel like you’ve both grown apart, so they’re looking for someone else that can fulfill their needs.

I’ve found that when you lose the spark that made you fall in love with each other, it can often be difficult to reignite it. So instead of distancing yourself from your partner, consider taking a greater interest in their daily activities so that you have something in common to discuss.

Although it won’t prevent them from cheating, it’ll undoubtedly give you peace of mind that you’re doing everything you can to maintain a strong relationship.

They Feel Neglected In The Relationship.

If your partner feels like you’re ignoring them, they may look to other people to feel appreciated by someone else. For example, if you’re continually refusing to have conversations as you’re busy with a work assignment, it’s easy to understand how they can feel neglected.

Healthy communication is vital to the success of any relationship. So if either of you feels unappreciated, it’s essential to speak up so that changes can be made. After all, it’s impossible to find a solution if you’re unaware of the problem.

So take a moment to consider how you can pay more attention to your partner and let them do the same. Because when each other’s emotional needs are met, the difference in the quality of your relationship will be profound.

They Don’t Feel Sexually Satisfied.

A study published by the Huffington Post has shown that “sexual boredom was the reason 71% of unfaithful men and 49% of the women gave for acting on sexual temptation.”

If you’re not meeting each other’s needs in the bedroom, it can potentially lead to infidelity within the relationship. After all, understanding each other’s sexual desires is essential for maintaining a healthy level of intimacy.

So listen to your partner, understand how often they want to have sex, and ensure that you come to a mutual agreement that leaves you both feeling sexually satisfied.

They Accidentally Cheated While Drunk.

I’ve always held a belief that there’s no acceptable excuse for being unfaithful in a relationship. Steve Maraboli said it best: “You didn’t just cheat on me; you cheated on us. You didn’t just break my heart; you broke our future.”

Even if your partner cheats while having a momentary lack of judgment (such as being drunk), it shows that they tend to disregard the consequences of their actions.

So stop settling for less than you deserve. Because when you end up in a relationship that fulfills your expectations & desires, I guarantee that your future self will thank you.

They Struggle With Boundaries.

It’s no secret that cheating means different things to different people. So it’s important to enforce some boundaries to ensure that you’re both respecting each other’s wishes. For example, you could recommend that neither of you can download dating apps while in a relationship together.

Unless you’re willing to commit & show respect for each other’s wishes, arguments are likely to become commonplace throughout the relationship. In the words of T.D. Jakes:

“You cannot have a relationship without reciprocity. You cannot get into a relationship to get and not give.”

Remember: Understanding the reasons behind infidelity is the best way to prevent it from happening in your relationship.

I write for people who want to live a happier life in the modern world. Let’s chat: Mattlillywhitemedium@gmail.com

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