5 Bad Habits You Must Break To Improve Your Relationship

If you want to become a better partner, here’s what you need to do.

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Just about all of us want to have an incredible relationship. We hope that we’ll fall head over heels in love, settle down in a beautiful city, and live together happily ever after for the rest of our lives.

Wouldn’t that be lovely? But as you know, that’s rarely the case. Because when you get into a horrific argument with your partner, you can’t help but wonder how long the relationship will last, and if you’re supposed to be together in the first place.

It sucks.

Fortunately, your relationship doesn’t have to be that way. Because when you focus on breaking the habits that sabotage your relationship, the love between you & your partner will become stronger than ever before.

So below are a collection of bad habits to eliminate so you can improve every aspect of your relationship. Each of these insights helped me to change my life in ways that I never imagined, and I’m sure they will do the same for you, too.

One of the biggest mistakes that people make in a relationship is attempting to mold their partner into an impossible vision of perfection. For example, they might want to change their partner’s wardrobe, adjust their hairstyle, or do anything else that would make their spouse uncomfortable.

It’s important to remember that we all have imperfections that define who we are. So instead of trying to change aspects of your partner’s appearance or personality, a better solution is embracing the characteristics which make them unique.

Accept your partner for who they are, love them unconditionally, and be grateful for this opportunity to be in love with someone incredibly special. Marcus Aurelius said it best:

“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.”

If you’re not talking about how you feel with your partner, your love will quickly begin to fade. After all, the ability to express your emotions is vital to the success of any healthy relationship.

I’m empathetic to the fact that you may be reluctant to share your feelings due to a fear that your partner may feel uncomfortable. However, it’s essential to remember that they’re by your side to take care of you during any moments of adversity.

If you struggle to discuss your emotions during a conversation, start by writing down how you feel, or doing anything else that may help your partner understand what they can do to help you.

Although having regular discussions about your feelings may seem like a small habit to implement into your relationship, the effects it’ll have on your intimacy is profound.

We’ve all had moments in our lives where we’ve told lies to avoid an uncomfortable truth, or pretend that everything is okay (even when it’s not).

But if lying becomes a frequent habit in your relationship, it could easily lead to a lack of trust between you & your partner. For example, they might question where you’ve been on a night out. So inevitably, arguments may arise over your ability to remain honest during a conversation.

Although telling the truth can sometimes feel extremely uncomfortable, it’s certainly much better to build your relationship on a foundation of trust instead of lies.

During the early stages of your relationship, small things such as sleeping next to your partner, or going out on dates are incredibly exciting. But over time, it’s common to start taking them for granted as having them by your side has become a natural part of daily life.

So instead of letting the passion fade away, I’ve discovered that a better solution is finding new ways to explore your love and become even closer as a couple. For example, going on vacation to a foreign country is a great way to create new memories & learn something new about your partner.

Whenever you feel like you’re taking your partner for granted, think of several ways to reignite the romance between you, and you’ll become grateful for having them in your life.

When you don’t forgive your partner for their mistakes, the resentment inside of you will begin to deteriorate the quality of your relationship.

For example, you might get frustrated with their actions, causing your partner to lie about their future mistakes as they don’t want to make you angry.

So if you want to create a healthy relationship, forgiving each other for any mistakes is a great way to build unbreakable levels of trust with your partner. In the words of Desmond Tutu:

“Forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.”

Remember: If you want to improve your relationship, all you need to do is eliminate bad habits that are preventing you from becoming a better partner.

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