4 Things Most People Are Too Afraid To Admit
Running from your problems won’t solve them.
That concept took me an extremely long time to understand. After all, I didn’t want to confront my negative thoughts or put in the necessary work to begin changing my life for the better.
But recently, I’ve noticed that a lot of people are like my former self. They live each day with anxiety, regret, and a lack of direction. And as a result of never doing anything to improve their life, nothing ever changes. So naturally, they assume that things will remain the same forever.
The truth is that if you don’t learn to control your thoughts, they will always be in control of you. Which is why it’s essential to take a look in the mirror and face reality.
So here are several harsh truths that many people afraid to admit. The sooner you accept them, the better.
Someone Always Has It Worse Than You.
This might be a hard pill for you to swallow. But if you live anywhere in the western world, I can guarantee that someone would switch places with you in a heartbeat.
Think about it. You might not be rich. But you’re certainly not living on less than a dollar a day, unable to drink clean water, and starving to death. In case you’re wondering, that’s exactly what’s happening to the majority of the population in Yemen.
Don’t get me wrong: I’m not saying that your problems aren’t relevant or terrible. However, it’s important to put everything into perspective and recognize how lucky you truly are.
It’s Impossible To Please Everyone.
Marcus Aurelius once wrote, “we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinion than our own.”
I used to be afraid of rejection. I was scared of not being liked. I was terrified that people wouldn’t like me for who I am, so I often pretended to be someone I’m not.
Sound familiar? I thought so. But unfortunately, you can’t please everyone. Even if you try, your personality will be so dull that it won’t appeal to anyone, due to a fear of saying or doing something wrong. Kriss Karr said it best:
“You can’t please everyone. When you’re too focused on living up to other people’s standards, you aren’t spending enough time raising your own. Some people may whisper, complain, and judge. But for the most part, it’s all in your head. People care less about your actions than you think. Why? They have their own problems.”
Nobody Wants To Love Someone Who Doesn’t Love Themselves.
For a long time, I found this extremely difficult to accept. But whether you like it or not, it’s true.
Nobody is going to come along as your knight in shining armor, and suddenly fix all of your problems. Why? Because all of your problems have one thing in common: you.
Perhaps you want approval from others, and often sacrifice aspects of your personality to receive it. Or maybe, you have a habit of blaming other people, so you feel better about your own shortcomings.
Look, I know how you feel. I’ve been in the same position as you many times. But it’s important to remember that everyone has insecurities. So instead of trying to hide them, a much better strategy is to embrace who you truly are.
Because once you learn how to treat yourself with kindness and respect, it’ll quickly become much easier for everyone you meet to do the same.
Life Is Never Fair.
Sure, you can get upset at everything that doesn’t go your way. But unfortunately, that’s a losing strategy that’s never going to work.
Instead, you have to let go of everything that you cannot control and focus solely on what you can.
For example, you cannot change the fact that there’s a global pandemic going on right now. However, you can use the extra time at home to experiment with new hobbies, read more books, and other things that keep your mind occupied.
I’m going to leave you with a final quote from Mark Manson, who beautifully sums up what I’m trying to say:
“We, individually, are responsible for everything in our lives, no matter the external circumstances. We don’t always control what happens to us. But we always control how we interpret what happens to us, as well as how we respond.”