4 Reasons Why Someone Canceled Your Date

It’s a bigger reflection of their imperfections, instead of yours.

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How often do you feel upset whenever someone cancels your date?

If you’re anything like my former-self, your response will be something along the lines of all the time.

Right? No matter how hard you try to remain optimistic, you can’t help but feel like you’ll never find someone to be with for the rest of your life.

It sucks.

Over the years, I’ve found myself in the same position as you many times. But instead of feeling inadequate, I’ve realized that canceling on someone is often a bigger reflection of their imperfections, instead of yours.

So below are a collection of reasons as to why someone may suddenly cancel on you. Each one of these insights helped me to understand the rationale behind someone’s actions so I could regain my self-esteem, and finally move on with my life. I hope they do the same for you, too.

When you’re having incredible conversations until the early hours of the morning, it’s heartbreaking when you discover that your date has no interest in starting a relationship.

After all, you made an emotional commitment, told them your secrets, and many other things which made you think it could’ve been the start of something beautiful.

But it’s important to remember that if they were flirting with you while speaking to someone else, they’re probably not the type of person you’d want to love for the rest of your life anyway.

If someone is embarrassed about their financial situation, they might choose to cancel your date as they want to avoid spending more than they can afford.

For example, after I spent hundreds of dollars buying new clothes in Toronto, my bank account didn’t have enough funds to afford a day trip to Niagara Falls, or anything else that I’d planned for an incredible date.

So instead of making it less exciting, I decided to cancel the date, so I wouldn’t have to make my existing financial problems worse.

But since that day, I’ve learned that it’s better to remain truthful and admit if you can’t afford to do something. After all, it’s certainly better to start a relationship based on honesty, instead of lying to avoid an uncomfortable conversation about money.

If someone doesn’t feel ready to meet after texting for a while, it’s common for them to cancel or begin ghosting you. Because in their mind, saying nothing at all is better than admitting they feel uncomfortable.

If you ever think that someone is canceling because they don’t feel ready, I’ve found that the best solution is telling them that it’s okay to wait until you both feel more comfortable about meeting up in person.

So consider being empathetic to how they feel, and try to take things at a pace that’s comfortable for both of you.

Because when you visibly do everything possible to make them feel comfortable, you’ll often find that any feelings of dating anxiety quickly fade away.

If someone messages you saying that they feel sick & need to cancel, there’s a possibility that they could be telling the truth. After all, it’s an excuse that’s used extremely frequently, so it’s often hard to tell when someone is being genuine or not.

So instead of getting frustrated when they cancel the date, take a moment to breathe and figure out the next steps you want to take.

For example, you could ask if they’d like to reschedule for another day so you still have an opportunity to see each other.

Although we can be extremely quick to make assumptions about other people’s intentions, giving them the benefit of the doubt is the best way forward whenever you’re unsure if someone is being honest.

Because let’s face it: if someone genuinely cares & wants to be with you for the rest of their life, they’ll happily reschedule to have another date as soon as possible. In the words of Stephen Kendrick:

“There must be a stronger foundation than mere friendship or sexual attraction. Unconditional love, agape love, will not be swayed by time or circumstances.”

When you’re patient, empathetic, and understand that everything happens for a reason, it’ll just be a matter of time before you meet your ideal partner.

So whenever someone cancels your date, ask yourself: “What actions can I take right now to have a beautiful relationship in the future?”

That’s all you need to do.

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