3 Ways To Tell If Someone’s Attracted To You

Most people don’t know how to recognize the signs.

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Do you ever wonder if someone’s interested in you?

If you’re anything like me, you want to find someone to love, settle down in a beautiful city, and spend the next few decades enjoying your time together.

After all, we all want to find an ideal partner and feel loved by someone we care about. But before you can start a relationship with someone, you first need to know if they’re attracted to you or not.

I know exactly how you feel. For many years, I found dating extremely difficult. Partly due to a lack of confidence, I was often terrified of rejection, and consequently, prevented myself from falling in love.

The truth is that I found it incredibly challenging to create incredible relationships. But when I started to gain an understanding of psychology, it was much easier to tell when someone was genuinely interested in me.

So below are a collection of ways to tell if someone finds you attractive. Each of these insights helped me improve my dating life, and I’m sure they will do the same for you, too.

1. They Always Make Time For You.

I used to struggle with prioritizing my time. The truth is that I was often spending it on people that weren’t interested in me, instead of people who were. So as you can imagine, I was never making any meaningful progress in finding a great relationship.

But here’s the thing: when someone thinks you’re attractive, I’ve found that they’ll inevitably make time in their day to be with you. After all, we naturally want to surround ourselves with people that make us happy. As the Greek Philosopher, Epictetus once said:

“The key is to keep company only with people who uplift you, whose presence calls forth your best.”

When I started focusing on my dating life, I stopped making myself available for people who weren’t willing to reciprocate. As a result, the quality of my relationships has exponentially improved, and my interactions with other people are much more meaningful.

If you want to know if someone’s attracted to you, pay attention to their actions, as well as their words. Because when they regularly make time to be with you, it’s evident that you’re able to make them incredibly happy.

2. They Always Say The Right Things.

One of the greatest truths of life is that we want people we love to feel special. For example, when we’re attracted to someone, we’ll often tell them how special they are and how they make us incredibly happy.

I’m sure that you’ve experienced something similar. Because if you’re anything like me, you want to make people you love feel appreciated for who they are. The only problem? You don’t know how to recognize when someone’s doing it to you.

My mom got diagnosed with breast cancer last year. It was undoubtedly one of the darkest periods of my life. For a long time, I struggled with the fact that she was frequently in hospital, and there was little I could do to fix the situation.

But then I started talking to this incredible woman. We’d text and talk on the phone until the early hours of the morning. She’d tell me that everything is going to be okay, and always said something to make me feel better.

I loved every moment of speaking to her. There’s a beautiful quote from Leo Buscaglia, which perfectly describes the importance of listening, and caring about what the other person has to say. It goes like this:

“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.”

I think that’s incredibly true. Because when someone makes an effort to listen with intent, it’s clear that they genuinely care about how you feel. They want to be in your life, and make sure that you’re okay.

So regardless of whether it’s during a date or while texting late at night, try to pay attention to what someone says and how they say it. Because if they make an effort to say the right thing in any given situation, it’s certainly a strong sign that they’re attracted to you.

3. They Remember What You Say.

If someone genuinely finds you attractive, they’ll make an effort to remember a lot of what you say during a conversation. After all, it’s normal to cherish beautiful memories of speaking to people we love. The Roman Emperor, Marcus Aurelius said it best:

“Accept the things to which fate binds you, and love the people with whom fate brings you together, but do so with all your heart.”

When I first started talking to that woman (previously mentioned), I thought I was talking to someone with an incredible memory. She remembered everything I said, did, and made me feel incredibly special. But when I found out she had a massive crush on me, everything suddenly made sense.

Research shows that when we talk to someone we love, it’s much easier to remember previous conversations with them. Quoting an article published by Psychology Today:

“Our current emotional state facilitates recall of experiences that had a similar emotional tone. When we are in a happy mood, we tend to recall pleasant events and vice versa.”

So, if someone remembers a lot of what you say, it’s a sign that they enjoy speaking to you and may find you attractive. For example, they might recall specific details of a date together, or something you said during a conversation.

Like you, I want to improve every aspect of my dating life. So when I began understanding these insights, it made it much easier to tell if someone was interested in me or not.

You can also do the same. You can take the necessary steps to change your dating life for the better. It’s possible for you to find an ideal partner, fall in love, and spend the rest of your lives together living happily ever after.

All you need to do is recognize the signs of love, and then do whatever it takes to create the relationship you desire.

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